Dr. Kelly and Chelsea at Let’s Talk Relationships interviewed me for their show and labeled it Rebel Relationships. Check out our conversation on different types of consensual non-monogamy, kinds of love, and dealing with the possible complexities of CNM relationships.
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When Your Partner Wants Non-Monogamy and You Don’t: A Workshop for People with a (Non)Monogamy Mismatch
⏲ Tuesday September 19 2017 7:00 PM – 10:00 PM EDT
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What do you do when you love someone and they want something very different from you? That conundrum can be very difficult when it comes to polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy because it can be very difficult to compromise on sexual and emotional exclusivity. In her 20+ years researching polyamorous families, Dr. Eli Sheff has seen many people deal with this sticky issue and faced it in her own life. Now she has designed a workshop with a combination of lecture, discussion, and exercises to help.
Who Should Come:
People who are already in relationships and struggling with a mismatch in desire for Consensual Non-Monogamy – someone wants an open/CNM relationship and someone else does not.
- Types of Consensual Non-Monogamy
- Arguments for CNM
- Arguments against CNM
- The difficulties of compromising on CNM
- Mono/Poly or Poly/Mono
- Considering boundaries: What do you want? What can you tolerate?
- Meeting of the minds (and other parts)
- Going separate ways
Participants can expect to take away a greater understanding of the options for CNM and increased clarity on their own needs and boundaries.
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In Polyqueer: Gender, Race, and Polyamory, Dr. Mimi Schippers examines the racialized and gendered backdrop against which heterosexuality and monogamy play out in contemporary US culture. Focusing on multiplistic configurations of one woman with two men, Schippers provides a polyqueer reading of E.Lynn Harris’s Invisible Life and the film The Other Man. Going beyond the individual focus common in much discussion of polyamory, Polyqueer examines the potential collective impacts of non-monogamies. Schippers asks how hetero-masculinity – embodied in The Monogamous Couple – shapes institutional relationships. By exposing them as socially constructed, Polyqueer demonstrates that these hegemonic relationships are far from inevitable. Best of all, Schippers explores counter-narratives that cross racial and gendered boundaries, disturbing mononormativity and offering the potential for a reorientation of hierarchical institutions.
In this new post, Hopes&Fears asks experts like Stephanie Coontz, Dossie Easton, Christopher Ryan, and Elisabeth Sheff if they think human beings are meant to be monogamous.