Providing fun talks packed with interesting information, Dr. Eli speaks to a wide range of groups.

With over 20 years of speaking in college classrooms, academic conferences, and fan conventions, Dr. Eli is adept at her craft.

Dr. Eli’s personable and approachable style helps make data interesting with engaging stories, plain language, and cutting-edge science to explain how her own and others’ research findings can help to understand current social issues.

Dr. Eli speaks to university groups, community organizations, academic conferences, and fan cons. She also provides workshops for smaller, more interactive groups.

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Universities & Organizations
Continuing Education
Community Groups & Conventions


Universities & Organizations

Dr. Sheff speaks about Sex and Gender Diversity to university groups and organizations around the world. Informative, entertaining, and accessible, Dr. Eli is a gifted speaker available to address your group or organization. Clients can select from lists of talks on families, gender, diversity, or have Dr. Eli tailor a talk for their specific needs using any of the topics below:

  • Long-term impacts of Consensual Non-Monogamy on Children
  • Distinguishing between BDSM/Kink & Intimate Partner Violence
  • Race, Class, & Education in Gender and Sex Minorities
  • Types of Consensual Non-Monogamy & When they Work (or Not)
  • Legal Issues Facing Sex & Gender Minorities
  • Untangling the LGBTQIAKOP+ Acronym
  • Postmodern Families: Chosen Kinship, Polyaffectivity & Resilience
  • Sex & Gender Variation in an Internet Era
  • Therapeutic Issues Facing Consensually Non-Monogamous Clients
  • Overlap Between Kink & Poly Communities & Practices
  • Using White Privilege as an Anti-Racist Tool


Continuing Education

Certified as a Sexuality Educator by the American Association of Sexuality Counselors, Educators, and Therapists (AASECT), Dr. Sheff can provide certified continuing education for AASECT and partner with other professionals to provide a wide range of certified continuing education. Dr. Sheff’s courses use cutting edge data on Gender and Sex Minorities to educate professionals in therapeutic and legal fields.

Dr. Sheff’s most popular continuing education classes include:

  • Therapeutic Issues Facing Consensually Non-Monogamous Clients
  • Distinguishing Between Intimate Partner Violence & BDSM in the ER or Therapy Office
  • Types of Consensual Non-Monogamy: When they work, when they don’t
  • Legal Issues Facing Gender & Sex Minorities
  • Resilience in Polyamorous Families
  • Chosen Kinship, Polyaffectivity & Resilience


Community Groups & Conventions

From Dragoncon to Frolicon, Atlanta Poly Weekend, Sex Down South, and the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, Dr. Eli has spoken at a huge range of conventions, MeetUps, bookstores, and community spaces. Dr. Eli’s most popular talks are listed below, and she is happy to design a new talk for your group or con.

  • Long-term impacts of CNM Families on Children
  • Seven Steps to Positive Polyamorous Parenting
  • Aging in Polyamorous Families
  • Legal Issues in CNM Relationships
  • Non-Monogamy Mismatch: When One Wants CNM & Another Doesn’t
  • Jealousy, Fear, & Anxiety, oh my! Managing emotions in CNM Relationships
  • Pleasures & Dangers of Unicorn Hunting
  • Unruly Women & Ethical Sluts: Gender in CNM
  • Untangling the LGBTQIAKOP+ Acronym
  • Sex & Gender Gray Areas
  • Poly & Kinky Overlap
  • Predators in our Midst: AltSex Community Responses to Abuse
  • Why so White? Race & Class in AltSex Communities
  • Using White Privilege Against Itself: White Allies to POC in AltSex Spaces



Dr. Eli offers workshops for smaller, more interactive groups who want time to ask questions and discuss specific issues. These sessions are designed to provide information based in years of research and allow attendees to learn more about how it relate to their specific situations. The most popular workshops are listed below, and Dr. Eli is happy to design your group a workshop that meets your groups’ needs.

  • Non-Monogamy Mismatch: When One Wants CNM & Another Doesn’t
  • Seven Steps to Positive Polyamorous Parenting
  • Interpersonal Boundaries & Negotiation in CNM Relationships
  • Managing Legal Issues in CNM Relationships
  • Jealousy, Fear, & Anxiety, Oh My! Managing emotions in CNM Relationships
  • Pleasures & Dangers of Unicorn Hunting

I would like to enthusiastically endorse Dr. Eli Sheff. She is an amazing facilitator and presenter. She has provided at least 2 trainings for our professional community. Each time she was informative, engaging, and funny. She brings a wealth of information regarding the polyamorous world and delivers it in way in which anyone can understand and implement into practice.

Dr. Sheff has proven herself as a leader in the field of researching and understanding polyamorous relationships, their lifestyles, and the impact on children of the poly families. We turn to her and her research for data on the poly community.

Again, I strongly recommend Dr. Sheff for all endeavors.”

~ Natalie Elliott, LPC, LMFT

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Dr. Eli Sheff has a PhD in Sociology from the University of Colorado, is a Certified Sexuality Educator recognized by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), and a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) in the Fulton County Juvenile Courts.

She is an expert in sex and gender minorities and understanding race in the United States. Dr. Sheff’s Polyamorous Families Study (1996 to present) is the only longitudinal study of polyamorous families with children to date. She has published three books, twenty academic articles or chapters, and hundreds of blogs.

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