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Happy Client Testimonial for Dr. Eli Sheff as Presenter

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Over the years I have spoken to the AASECT community of educators, counselors, and therapists in Atlanta several times. Their delightful local leader Natalie Elliot of the Atlanta Counseling Institute has written me a letter of recommendation, see below.

 

To Whom It May Concern,

I would like to enthusiastically endorse Dr. Eli Sheff. She is an amazing facilitator and presenter. She has provided at least 2 trainings for our professional community. Each time she was informative, engaging, and funny. She brings a wealth of information regarding the polyamorous world and delivers it in way in which anyone can understand and implement into practice.

Dr. Sheff has proven herself as a leader in the field of researching and understanding polyamorous relationships, their lifestyles, and the impact on children of the poly families. We turn to her and her research for data on the poly community.

Again, I strongly recommend Dr. Sheff for all endeavors.

Sincerely,

Natalie Elliott, LPC, LMFT

 

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Continuing Education for Therapists with Dr. Tammy Nelson, Dr. Eli Sheff, Ken Haslam, and Jim Fleckenstein

The wonderful Dr. Tammy Nelson is offering continuing education units for therapists interested in monogamy and non-monogamy.

The New Monogamy – Finding Poly, Non-Exclusive and Open Relationships.
When It Works and When It Doesn’t.

 
Your purchase includes…
 
America’s expert on Redefining Your Monogamy, Dr. Tammy Nelson, as well as:
  • Original Research and Findings on Non-Exclusive Relationships with James R. Fleckenstein – one hour
  • Polyamory and Families with author Dr. Eli Sheff – one hour
  • Three AASECT CE accredited hours
  • And more!
BONUS
Two additional FREE hours of recordings featuring Ken Haslam and Scarlett Ross. Join the discussion about what it is like to be in an open relationship, hear their personal experiences as they share the challenges and the joys of their relationships.
Two free hours of course material, a handout, eBook, Create Your New Monogamy Agreement, by Dr. Tammy Nelson at NO extra charge!*
Download today and enjoy the recordings at your leisure. Click here:
*Bonus hours are not CE accredited
Helping create sustainable relationships and global relational change.
To learn more about my upcoming events, contact me or visit my website:
www.drtammynelson.com                        tammy@drtammynelson.com

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Satisfied Relationship Coaching Client Testimonial

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MK, a client who has been coaching with me for a few months, wrote the most lovely client testimonial and gave me permission to post it here:

 

Dr. Sheff has been an invaluable resource for me as a relationship coach.  She has provided valuable insight and information regarding different relationship and communication structures, and reflection, guidance, and perspective, thus helping me gain much needed clarity.  She has helped me access ideas for activities, systems and methods I can employ daily to find my own truth and sense of self.  She is motivating and uplifting, and extremely easy to connect and share with, especially given her compassion, warmth, and incredible sense of humor.  Her support has been invaluable throughout my journey and I give her the highest recommendation for helping people through challenges they may be experiencing.

MK

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Well & Good Interviews Dr. Eli Sheff on Open Relationship Pros & Cons

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Zoe Weiner at Well and Good interviewed me recently about when open relationships work, and when they don’t.

 

 

https://www.wellandgood.com/good-advice/health-pros-cons-of-open-relationship/

 

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Cronica Post Foro: Reflections on Conference in Spain

 

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I just returned to the United States from the first annual Foro Poliamor in Spain, and was completely charmed by it all – the people I met, the places they showed me, and the conference itself.

If you have never been to Spain and could possibly travel there, I strongly suggest that you try to find somehow, someway to get there. It is a lovely, diverse, delightful country with friendly people and incredible places to visit. Going for the Foro is the perfect excuse to explore this incredible country!

 

Catalunya

The Catalunya region of Spain is gorgeous and diverse. A charming mix of ancient and ultra-modern, Barcelona is the transit, tourist, and business capitol of the region. The Foro Poliamor conference met at the delightful Hotel Cardos in the Pyrenees Mountains. Roughly three hours from Barcelona by car, the mountains have lovely trees and burbling brooks in the summer and skiing in the winter. With barely any competing light and clear air, the night sky in the Pyrenees is so dark and clear that you can see the band of the Milky Way standing stark amid the most stars I have ever seen.

 

Hotel Cardos

FORO 01 grounds .jpgHotel Cardos is a charming, quirky, and comfortable hotel with a lovely deck, swimming pool, gardens, and grounds. A collectors’ dream, Hotel Cardos boasts a diverse and fascinating array of objects (especially nativity figures), sculptures, and wall-art gracing each of its six floors. The dining room offers a large and inviting space with a central buffet for breakfast, and long tables where lunch and dinner are served. The staff are delightful, incredibly friendly, and accommodating, and helped to create a relaxed and welcoming atmosphere. Inviting sleeping rooms provided comfortable beds, private bathrooms, and windows with gorgeous mountain views of the fierce late June sun during the day and lovely cooling breezes at night. The grounds of Hotel Cardos are filled with delightful nooks and crannies, from a fountain grotto with elaborate stone designs to a gazebo surrounded by trees and horses in the field next to the pool. Indoor spaces provide a wide range of places to hang out – among them the Piano room for big meetings and social chatting, the Zen room for quite thinking, reading, or meditation, the Botanica space that straddled the sunroom and stone patio, or the underground discotheque complete with lights and sound system.

 

 Foro Poliamor Conference

A three-day fiesta of thoughts and interactions, learning and socializing – what’s not to like? In fact, the entire conference was lovely, from the flexible nature of the programming to the delightful conversations around delicious food. There were two organized tracks – four workshops with me and four workshops with Nico Castellanos. My workshops covered types of CNM and when they work (or not), a brief history of CNM and its place in social change, dealing with jealousy, and children in polyamorous families. Nico Castellanos presented workshops on four-hand massage, BDSM for the curious, conscious touch, and a sensory journey.

A third track was organized by the folks who came to the conference in the moment, with people writing suggestions for what they would like to discuss and others offering expertise in specific topics. I attended one of the open track sessions on ninja training led by the impressive and intrepid Irene and it kicked my ass, even though I was not in time to meet them for the running portion of the workout. Doing the stairs, jumping up and down a bench (except in my case more stepping up and down) and lifting blocks of concrete from a squat or in a lunge was more than enough for me. By the time we got to repeatedly jumping in the pool and lifting ourselves up using upper body strength I decided I might just stay in the pool for a while. Everyone was jovial and encouraging, some joining me in the pool to luxuriate in the delightful water and others continuing their (grueling I must say) workout. That moment was characteristic of the Foro for me – I was free to do as I wished with the delight and support from those around me in a relaxed learning and collaborative environment. Non-ninja-related topics included dancing, defining and establishing consent, working through the emotional pain that can come with polyamorous relationships, and many more.

 

Socializing

There were many fun opportunities for relaxed socializing. Meals at long tables encouraged spontaneous conversations with folks who ended up next to each other, and the swimming pool and patio offered many opportunities to lounge and chat. A costume party Saturday night had everyone cross-dressing and boogieing in the disco and watching the absolutely incredible (I cannot sufficiently express how truly amazing) night sky.

 

Language

While I learned a little bit of Spanish as an exchange student in Guadalajara, it was not even enough to really communicate then and I have forgotten most of it in the intervening years. Even with such limited skills, I was able to communicate easily with people at the conference because many of them spoke at least some English. During my workshops the Foro provided someone to translate between English and Spanish, and they even gave me a personal translator during the group meetings who whispered to me in English. In the rare case that the person I was chatting with could not understand my broken Spanish and could not speak to me in English, there was always someone else nearby who was happy to translate on the fly. Overall, I found the language quite easy to navigate and people happy to help me through stumbles.

 

The next Foro happens in June of 2018. Tickets to Barcelona are not all that expensive, especially if you start looking for deals early. If you start saving today, you might be able to travel to Spain next year for the Foro. In my experience, it was totally worth the time, effort, and expense to get there for the amazing experience.

 

 

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Women’s Health Magazine Interviews Dr. Eli Sheff

 

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Alexandria Gomez from Women’s Health Magazine interviewed me recently for a piece on polyamory and consensual non-monogamy. You can find the article here.

 

 

http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/open-relationships

 

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Accessible Multi-linking & Polyamory Virtual Con Still Accepting Panelist Submissions

 

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Good news for anyone who is interested in polyamory but find Cons inaccessible for a variety of reasons. The Accessible Multi-linking and Polyamory Virtual Con, is taking place November 3 – 5 at an Internet-capable screen near you. AMaP is a fully online con designed to be accessible to people who usually can’t make in-person cons.

 

 

If you want to, consider submitting a workshop or presentation proposal for the con. The theme this year is Silenced Voices, and organizers are inviting all to participate with a special emphasis on diversity and folks who do not traditionally have access to the cultural megaphone.

If you are interested, but not sure how running an online workshop can work, you can see our short example here.ww.polyamoryonpurpose.com

 

 

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