Participate in Research on Compersion?

A colleague is conducting research on compersion. Please consider participating if you match the study criteria   Have you ever experienced joy (rather than jealousy) when your partner(s) found love with another partner, in the context of a committed, consensually nonmonogamous relationship? If you are 21 years old or over, speak English and answered yes to... Continue Reading →

New York Magazine Interviews Dr. Eli Sheff

  Candice Jalili recently interviewed me for two articles for New York Magazine: Your Complete Guide to Making An Open Relationship Work, includes advice from sex therapist Courtney Watson,   In 8 Signs a Monogamous Relationship Isn't For You, Jalili gets it almost complete right, except for number 6. Rather than jealousy, anxiety, or insecurity being "almost disloyal"... Continue Reading →

Dr. Eli Sheff’s 2018 Schedule (So Far)

While my schedule is still evolving, these are the events that are firmly planned so far. Please consider attending one of these events near you! Dr. Eli Sheff’s Schedule for 2018 February 11 – 14              Atlanta, GA               Lifestyle Live! Coaching Conference March 23 and 24              Austin, TX     ... Continue Reading →

Really No Jealousy? Blog on Psychology Today

  In my most recent Psychology Today blog I use fresh longitudinal data to explore the absence of jealousy and how some people who had never felt it before encounter a situation that triggers jealousy, even after years of being in CNM relationships without jealousy. Image is of three colorful birds sitting on... Continue Reading →

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