Monthly Mono-Poly Relationship Support
If you are in a mixed-dynamic relationship where one person wants exclusivity and another wants an open relationship and you could use some help figuring out how to manage it, consider joining us for an online support group the second Wednesday of every month. This coming February 11 and 5 pm Pacific time/8 pm Eastern…
2026 SexPosCon Virtual Conference Registration Now Open
Registration is Open Register Today! The 2026 conference is entirely virtual. Times for the conference are centered on U.S. Eastern Standard Time for the convenience of the majority of the presenters. Sessions will be recorded and recordings will be made available to all registrants for a limited time. Current Conference ScheduleMeet the Presenters Become a Conference…
Unlock Your Relationship Insights with Our Free Report
After a decade of development, the Bonding Project is pilot testing our novel romance test and relationship archetype results! As a thank you to all of the folks who have given us the data to build these extensive results and craft archetypes for each type of bonder, we are offering the full report for free…
Enhance Your Love Life: The Power of Post-Sex Communication
The shortened blog that meets the Psychology Today editors’ requirements is up now — check it out to see if you can spot the differences! This post offers tips for folks who want to become better lovers using post-sex communication.
Mastering Aftercare: Tips for Lasting Sexual Satisfaction
I blog for the Psychology Today website, and occasionally their editors ask me to edit what I have written to make it fit better with their site. The blog below is an example of that. The editors asked me to make the language less explicit and to focus on the psycholiogical aspects of post-sex communication,…
Explore Mixed Relationships: Workshop in Los Angeles January 11
Mixed Dynamic Relationships Workshop in Los Angeles Jan. 11 Are you in a relationship with someone who wants a different format than you do? One wants an exclusive relationship, and the other wants to be open to multiple partners? Both want multiple partners, but would prefer different kinds of openness? You share a craving for…
Navigate Family Stress During Holidays
Are you dreading seeing your family during the upcoming winter holidays? Afraid of what they will say to you or how they will react to your gender or relationship nonconformity? Then this is the perfect workshop for you! Join me, Dr. Eli, for an evening of strategizing and advice for how to deal with challenging…
Expand Your Counseling Skills: Non-Monogamy Certification Program
Certification Program in Consensual NonMonogamies starts this fall! Are you a counselor, therapist, coach, or social worker who wants to develop greater expertise in serving clients in consensually nonmonogamous relationships? Consider taking the online nine-month certification course that I offer in collaboration with the Sexual Health Alliance. This self-paced course includes three live intensives with…
Understanding Polyamorous Families: A Workshop for Professionals
If you are a counselor, therapist, educator, or other professional who serves families with children and want to develop cultural competency with polyamorous families, please join us this Friday for an online workshop! Using data from the Longitudinal Polyamorous Family Study (1996 – present), Dr. Elisabeth Sheff presents findings relevant to families with multiple adults.…
Navigating Mixed Relationship Dynamics: Join Our Monthly Support Group
Montly drop-in support group for folks in mixed-dynamic relationships Wednesday October 8 5 pm Pacific/8 pm Eastern time Online Mixed dynamic relationships are those in which one person wants an exclusive relationship and another wants an open relationship, all the people want an open relationship but different kinds, or all the people want an exclusive…
The Rise of Polycules: Insights from My London Times Interview
Recently Megan Agnew at the London Times interviewed me about polycules. You can find the article here. https://www.thetimes.com/life-style/sex-relationships/article/polyamory-polycule-somerville-capital-lbt2vx20v
Understanding BDSM: Insights from a WebMD Interview
Recently WebMD interviewed me about how to define BDSM. You can find the information here https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-bdsm-sex
Ruff & Tumble Kink Conference 2025 in Missoula
October 3 & 4, Missoula Montana The OH Hi Collective presents its second annual Ruff & Tumble Kink Conference at the University of Montana. Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff presents on How to Avoid Legal Prosecution for Consensual Kink on Saturday, October 4. Get ready for a wild ride of education with OH Hi Collective, The Branch Center…
How and Why to use Active Voice in Social Science Writing
What is passive voice? Passive voice is a grammatical construction where the subject receives the action rather than performing it. In other words, it puts the thing that is being done before the thing that is doing it (such as this sentence). Active voice is when the author starts the sentence or phrase with the…
Online Workshop for Nonconformists: Surviving Family Holidays
If you are a gender or sex nonconformist and feeling nervous about spending time with your family of origin or your partners’ family during the upcoming winter holidays, come to this online workshop to learn techniques and strategies for managing challenging family interactions! Get tickets here: https://www.sheboptheshop.com/freaky-holidays.html
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One of a handful of global experts on polyamory and the foremost international expert on children in polyamorous families, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff has studied sex and gender minority families for over 30 years.
Sheff’s television appearances include CNN, and the National Geographic, and she has given hundreds of radio, podcast, print, and television interviews with sources from Vouge and BuzzFeed to the New York Times and National Public Radio.

