Previously I told my readers about an exciting new book series on diverse sex, gender, and relationships that I am co-editing with Dr. Richard Sprott through the publishers Rowman and Littlefield. Now I am very excited to announce that the first book in that series is coming out! Dr. Jorge Ferrer has written a fantastic …
Category: Gender
New Blog on Psychology Today Explores Unicorn Hunting
In the first of a two-part series, my newest blog on Psychology Today explores the foibles of unicorn hunting for heteroflexible couples who want to date women. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/202009/unicorn-hunting-heteroflexible-threesomes
Research on Intersecting Sexual Identities Ends Soon
Last chance! Participate in this study from #div44cnm scholars that examines the experiences of non-monogamous #LGBTQIA folks with diverse identities. Check it out here: http://bit.ly/DiverseIDSurvey#inclusion #diversity #polyamory #openrelationships #intersectionality #lgbtq #lgbt
Dame Interviews Dr. Eli Sheff on Is Polyamory Right For You?
Reina Gattuso at Dame recently interviewed me for her piece How to Tell If Polyamory is Really for You You can find it at https://www.dameproducts.com/blogs/journal/how-to-tell-if-polyamory-is-really-for-you
Lavender Law Conference Workshop
This week I had the pleasure of presenting at the Lavender Law Conference in Philadelphia. As one of the few non-lawyers at the conference, I felt welcomed with open arms and learned a lot. The panels were incredibly useful and educational, and I learned very interesting things about sex workers, birth certificates, assisted reproductive technology, …
Interview With Kenya and Carl Stevens
Founders of Jujumama Love Academy and long-time polyamorous leaders Carl and Kenya Stevens gave me a great interview about the African roots of multiple partner relationships and how African Americans are doing polyamory today. Interview with Kenya and Carl Stevens K= Kenya C= Carl E= Eli E: How did you get involved in polyamory? K: …
Sociological Analysis of Three Veaux Survivor Narratives
For several months now I have been a member of Franklin Veaux’s accountability pod, designated to help Franklin through the process of dealing with the allegations of abuse. As part of my service to the pod, I analyzed the three narratives written by some of Franklin’s ex-partners and posted online. That analysis appears below. It …
Lexi Sylver at SDC Interviews Dr. Eli Sheff
Lexi Sylver at Seek Discover Create interviewed me for her podcast — you can find our chat here https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/voice-america/sdc-presents-seek-discover-create-with-lexi-sylver/e/59121662 Image is of a split frame with a person who appears to be a smiling white woman with dark curly hair wearing black and red (on the right side of the frame) and an abstract heart …
Review of Is Monogamy Dead by Rosie Wilby

Review of Is Monogamy Dead? By Rosie Wilby
I loved this book far more than I expected to. When I saw the number of chapters I cringed inside, thinking that I was really screwed if this book sucked and I had to slog through that many pages. To my absolute delight, instead I found myself flying through the witty pages and short, pithy chapters thinking “OK, just one more. Well, one more after this one, I guess. Ok, now I really mean this is the last one for sure.”
In Is Monogamy Dead Wilby skillfully blends information from experts and her own research with achingly honest and refreshingly amusing personal experiences and insights. Smart, funny, and thought provoking, I simply loved Is Monogamy Dead. In fact, I detest reading from a screen in general and this book was so good that I was willing to read it on my laptop. As a technophobe who already spends too much time on the computer, that is quite a statement for me to be willing to read for pleasure on a device instead of a paper book. This delightful book was worth it! You can find it here. https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1786154536
Rosie Wilby is a British comic who writes about love and relationships and is the creator and host of The Breakup Monologues podcast, which is available free on iTunes and Spotify. She is on twitter @rosiewilby
Sex Down South Starts Today in Atlanta
One of my very favorite sex cons in Atlanta (and there are some FABULOUS sex cons in ATL, so it has some serious competition 🙂 ) is the truly inspirational Sex Down South. The con starts today, and I will be there presenting the Non-Monogamy Mismatch, as well as hanging out with some fantastic sex …