Dr. Eli Sheff is an Educational Consultant and Expert Witness Serving Sexual and Gender Minorities.
One of my very favorite sex cons in Atlanta (and there are some FABULOUS sex cons in ATL, so it has some serious competition 🙂 ) is the truly inspirational Sex Down South. The con starts today, and I will be there presenting the Non-Monogamy Mismatch, as well as hanging out with some fantastic sex... Continue Reading →
Do Pheromones Play a Role in Polyamorous Families? Polyamory can be a difficult concept to navigate when you are fairly new to the idea or you have just begun to realize that you personally may be polyamorous. Many of us have been conditioned to accept the idea that monogamy is the standard to which we... Continue Reading →
In my newest blog on Psychology Today I introduce Jillian Deri's term polyagony and briefly summarize Deri's findings that she published in her book Love's Refraction. Then I detail five of the ways that the people who have participated in my research report experiencing polyagony. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201805/polyagony-when-polyamory-goes-really-wrong The image is a photograph of a weathered gray... Continue Reading →
Practical NonMonogamy: An empirical guide to relationship diversity and kinky sex with Dr. Eli Sheff Workshop Tour 2018 This May I will embark on an 11 city, three month road trip in the United States to provide educational and interactive workshops about polyamory and kinky sex. See the schedule below for dates in a city... Continue Reading →
A colleague is conducting research on compersion. Please consider participating if you match the study criteria Have you ever experienced joy (rather than jealousy) when your partner(s) found love with another partner, in the context of a committed, consensually nonmonogamous relationship? If you are 21 years old or over, speak English and answered yes to... Continue Reading →
Southwest Love Fest April 6-8, 2018 Tucson, AZ ​The Southwest Love Fest is a conference on consensual non-monogamy with opportunities to learn, share and connect with other like minded people. It's an open space to find community and learn from others' diverse relationship experiences. It's going to be thought-provoking, transformative and all happening in a great... Continue Reading →
Zoe Weiner recently interviewed me for a piece at Glam about how people expand their sexual and relational options for Valentines days. You can find that interview here. https://www.glam.com/women-want-to-try-out-new-things-in-bedroom/
Candice Jalili recently interviewed me for two articles for New York Magazine: Your Complete Guide to Making An Open Relationship Work, includes advice from sex therapist Courtney Watson,  In 8 Signs a Monogamous Relationship Isn't For You, Jalili gets it almost complete right, except for number 6. Rather than jealousy, anxiety, or insecurity being "almost disloyal"... Continue Reading →
I just recently finished posting the newest blog on my Psychology Today site that is the second in a two blog series on consent violations in CNM. The first blog looks at minor violations such as breaking relationship agreements, and the second blog examines community responses to more serious consent violations. Blog 1:Â https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201712/consent-violations-in-consensual-non-monogamy Blog... Continue Reading →
Sheff’s television appearances include CNN, and the National Geographic, and she has given more than 20 radio, podcast, print, and television interviews with sources from Radio Slovenia to National Public Radio, the Sunday London Times to the Boston Globe and Newsweek.
