Multicolored embroidery threads form tangled loops across a neutral linen surface. This fall of 2026 is shaping up to be an exciting time filled with fun and learning! Here are some of the things I am doing that you might want to join. Overlapping CNM & BDSM CE Workshop at Sexology Outsiders The SexualContinueContinue reading “Fall 2026 Events for CNM & BDSM Relationships with Dr. Eli”
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S//xology Outsiders Training: Understanding Diverse Desires
Join me on September 5–6, 2026, for the S//xual Health Alliance’s S//xology Outsiders: Advanced Clinical Perspectives & Hidden Worlds of Desire—a live, online professional training exploring the identities, relationships, practices, and desires that many clinicians and helping professionals receive little or no formal education about. I will be teaching about the intersections between consensual nonmonogamies/polyamoryContinueContinue reading “S//xology Outsiders Training: Understanding Diverse Desires”
Understanding Neurodiverse Sexuality Challenges
In my newest blog on Psychology Today I explore some of the sexual issues that face neurodiverse people and how they and their partners can address them to create a happy, satisfying sex life together. You can find it at https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/202608/neurodiverse-sexuality-and-common-challenges
Cultivating Relationship Satisfaction in Non-Monogamy: Sign Up Now!
In honor of the Week of CNM Visibility sponsored by OPEN, Tamara Pincus and Elisabeth Sheff are hosting a workshop on relationship satisfaction for folks in multiple-partner relationships. Join us on July 6 4 to 5:30 pm (Pacific time) for an informative discussion that includes a summary of the research on relationship satisfaction from Dr.ContinueContinue reading “Cultivating Relationship Satisfaction in Non-Monogamy: Sign Up Now!”
Exploring Sustainable Polyamory in Today’s Society
In response to Lindy West’s new book, Holly Baxter at the Independent recently interviewed me about the possibility that polyamory and other forms of consensual nonmonogamy are sustainable. Refreshingly, Baxter offers quite a balanced view of CNM. https://www.the-independent.com/life-style/lindy-west-adult-braces-polyamory-b2946483.html
Monthly Mono-Poly Relationship Support
If you are in a mixed-dynamic relationship where one person wants exclusivity and another wants an open relationship and you could use some help figuring out how to manage it, consider joining us for an online support group the second Wednesday of every month. This coming February 11 and 5 pm Pacific time/8 pm EasternContinueContinue reading “Monthly Mono-Poly Relationship Support”
Unlock Your Relationship Insights with Our Free Report
After a decade of development, the Bonding Project is pilot testing our novel romance test and relationship archetype results! As a thank you to all of the folks who have given us the data to build these extensive results and craft archetypes for each type of bonder, we are offering the full report for freeContinueContinue reading “Unlock Your Relationship Insights with Our Free Report”
Enhance Your Love Life: The Power of Post-Sex Communication
The shortened blog that meets the Psychology Today editors’ requirements is up now — check it out to see if you can spot the differences! This post offers tips for folks who want to become better lovers using post-sex communication.
Mastering Aftercare: Tips for Lasting Sexual Satisfaction
I blog for the Psychology Today website, and occasionally their editors ask me to edit what I have written to make it fit better with their site. The blog below is an example of that. The editors asked me to make the language less explicit and to focus on the psycholiogical aspects of post-sex communication,ContinueContinue reading “Mastering Aftercare: Tips for Lasting Sexual Satisfaction”
Explore Mixed Relationships: Workshop in Los Angeles January 11
Mixed Dynamic Relationships Workshop in Los Angeles Jan. 11 Are you in a relationship with someone who wants a different format than you do? One wants an exclusive relationship, and the other wants to be open to multiple partners? Both want multiple partners, but would prefer different kinds of openness? You share a craving forContinueContinue reading “Explore Mixed Relationships: Workshop in Los Angeles January 11”