The fantastic folks over at SwingTown have published another one of my blogs, this time on six of the benefits people can experience in polyamorous relationships.
Image is of a hand-drawn saying on a piece of paper “because of your love i am free” in colorful pencil outline.
https://swingtowns.com/blog/poly/six-benefits-poly/
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The folks over at SwingTown asked if I would write them a blog about how to deal with common problems that beset polyamorous relationships. This is what we ended up with — enjoy!
https://swingtowns.com/blog/poly/five-problems-polyamorous/
Filed under Blog, consensual nonmonogamy, dating, diversity, Families, Gender, jealousy, love, marriage, non-monogamy, open relationships, Polyamory, relationships, romance, sex, sexuality, Uncategorized
The purpose of this workshop is to introduce mental health practitioners to polyamory and the therapeutic issues they can face when serving clients in polyamorous relationships. It begins with defining Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) and contrasting it with cheating/adultery. Then it explores the primary types of Consensual Non-Monogamy practiced in the United States: Open Relationships, Polygamy, Swinging, Polyamory, Monogamish Relationships, and Relationship Anarchy.
This workshop looks at therapeutic issues facing people in CNM relationships, both internal to and external of the relationship. Internal issues vary by person, and often include dealing with jealousy, conflict, and boundary negotiation. Issues that are external to the relationship often include facing stigma, coming out to families of origin, and therapist bias.
In the workshop we will also identify at least three expressions of therapist bias and a discussion of the ethical issues inherent in combatting therapist bias. Practitioners will also obtain tools to recognize and address their biases, and/or provide appropriate referrals.
There will be exploration of the advantages and disadvantages associated with poly families and relationships, which will utilize research from a 20-year study to include an explanation of the ways in which these families affect children.
Register at www.SexTherapistNat.com
The second in my blog series on kids in polyamorous families just went up today — you can find it at https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201704/children-in-polyamorous-families-part-2
Dominus Blue and baby j from Black People Kink recently interviewed me for their new podcast. You can check it out at https://www.blackpeoplekink.com/podcast-2/
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My most recent post on Psychology Today is the first in a series on children in polyamorous families and focuses on their age-dependent experiences and three reasons these kids seem to be in such good shape.
This trio I coached earlier this week sent such a sweet note afterwards, I got their permission to post it:
Dear Dr. Eli,
Written by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff
Book Description
Marriage and monogamy are not what they used to be, and today many couples are opting to start families before getting married, or deciding not to get married at all. At the same time, gay couples in states that recognize same-sex marriage are getting married in droves. Some people prefer non-monogamy and have relationships that include swinging and polyamory. The landscape of American marriage and relationships is changing, and a variety of family systems are developing and becoming more common.
Dr. Elisabeth Sheff is the author of The Polyamorists Next Door, a blog featured on Psychology Today.
Using empirical information based in academic research, this blog explores the issues facing polyamorous relationships and families. It covers topics as diverse as sexuality to parenting, jealousy to coming out to families of origin, and employment and housing discrimination to online dating.
