Dr. Kelly and Chelsea at Let’s Talk Relationships interviewed me for their show and labeled it Rebel Relationships. Check out our conversation on different types of consensual non-monogamy, kinds of love, and dealing with the possible complexities of CNM relationships.
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When Your Partner Wants Non-Monogamy and You Don’t: A Workshop for People with a (Non)Monogamy Mismatch
⏲ Tuesday September 19 2017 7:00 PM – 10:00 PM EDT
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What do you do when you love someone and they want something very different from you? That conundrum can be very difficult when it comes to polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy because it can be very difficult to compromise on sexual and emotional exclusivity. In her 20+ years researching polyamorous families, Dr. Eli Sheff has seen many people deal with this sticky issue and faced it in her own life. Now she has designed a workshop with a combination of lecture, discussion, and exercises to help.
Who Should Come:
People who are already in relationships and struggling with a mismatch in desire for Consensual Non-Monogamy – someone wants an open/CNM relationship and someone else does not.
- Types of Consensual Non-Monogamy
- Arguments for CNM
- Arguments against CNM
- The difficulties of compromising on CNM
- Mono/Poly or Poly/Mono
- Considering boundaries: What do you want? What can you tolerate?
- Meeting of the minds (and other parts)
- Going separate ways
Participants can expect to take away a greater understanding of the options for CNM and increased clarity on their own needs and boundaries.
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My newest blog on Psychology Today examines the role that choice plays in polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy, focusing on consent, self-responsibility, and mutual reliance.
The image is of an abstract white figure leaning down with its hands on its knees and examining a red line on the ground that branches into three arrows going in different directions.
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Curious Fox Presents is bringing me to Brooklyn, NY for two events. The first is Consider This: A Day of Challenging the Status Quo in Sex and Relationships with me, Tikva Wolf, Kitty Chambliss, and a host of other interesting folks collected for an afternoon and evening of enlightening discussions and exciting comedy performance at the House of Yes in Brooklyn on Saturday September 16 beginning at 12:30 and ending at 7 pm. For more information and to get tickets, go to https://www.facebook.com/events/1390479657704116/
The second event is When Your Partner Wants Non-Monogamy and You Don’t, an evening workshop for singles and groups with a mis-match in desire for Consensual Non-Monogamy. This workshop is Tuesday, September 19 and starts at 7 pm, ending by 10 pm. For more information and to get tickets, see https://www.picatic.com/elisheffworkshop
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Brian Reynolds’s new play Mono/Poly is a laugh-out-loud exploration of the shenanigans that ensue when two monogamous couples meet a polyamorous triad. This delightful and rousing play just opened at the Hudson Theater in Los Angeles, and I had the pleasure of seeing it twice and sitting on the panels after each performance.
Having attended many, many plays I am well aware of how painfully bad theater can be, and I must admit that I was a little bit nervous about sitting on the panels after the show. What would I say if it was terrible? To my absolute delight (and a little bit of relief), Mono/Poly was fantastic! Great dialog that was both witty and believable, a completely plausible and yet interesting plot, and incredible actors perfectly cast in their roles made the show an amusing and satisfying experience. I was sad to see it end and could definitely have watched a third act, which is a major statement for my ADHD-short-span-of-attention-for-entertainment self.
This was the first showing, and Reynolds is in talks with other theaters in the LA area who may host another performance of the production in a larger space. Let us all hope that those talks come to fruition with another staging of Mono/Poly sooner than later. If you get the chance to see this wonderful play, jump at it! I can’t wait to see it again — on Broadway.
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