I blog for the Psychology Today website, and occasionally their editors ask me to edit what I have written to make it fit better with their site. The blog below is an example of that. The editors asked me to make the language less explicit and to focus on the psycholiogical aspects of post-sex communication,ContinueContinue reading “Mastering Aftercare: Tips for Lasting Sexual Satisfaction”
Category Archives: sexuality
Explore Mixed Relationships: Workshop in Los Angeles January 11
Mixed Dynamic Relationships Workshop in Los Angeles Jan. 11 Are you in a relationship with someone who wants a different format than you do? One wants an exclusive relationship, and the other wants to be open to multiple partners? Both want multiple partners, but would prefer different kinds of openness? You share a craving forContinueContinue reading “Explore Mixed Relationships: Workshop in Los Angeles January 11”
Understanding BDSM: Insights from a WebMD Interview
Recently WebMD interviewed me about how to define BDSM. You can find the information here https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-bdsm-sex
Register Now for Positive Sexuality Day: Edutainment Awaits
https://my.onecause.com/event/organizations/97bddfa3-da39-43b4-bbbc-2859963a33ac/events/vevt:4d98e47d-3ad9-494c-a1a3-673f4fc7cfc7/home/story Register for Positive Sexuality Day on August 31, a FREE afternoon of edutainment about cutting edge research on sexualities, ethics, publishing, pornography, and BDSM! https://positivesexuality.org/events/positive-sexuality-day-2025/
Breaking Free: Rejecting Purity Culture’s Impact
My newest blog on Psychology Today explores some of the reasons people leave purity culture behind, and some of the outcomes they experience when they reject Evangelical expectations. Shout out to Mx. Tessi Muskrat for their awesome research on this topic! https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/202507/rejecting-sexual-shame-from-purity-culture #Shame #gender #relationship #Religions #purityculture #personalgrowth #NewBeginnings #healing
Safe Practices in Rough Sex and BDSM Explained
In my newest blog on Psychology Today I explore the differences between rough sex and BDSM, and offer some tips about how to do both safely. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/202506/what-is-the-difference-between-rough-sex-and-bdsm
We Love Consent at DanceSafe Offers Consent Resources
The wonderful folks with the We Love Consent team at Dancesafe gave me permission to post their excellent consent resources on this site. Now you, lucky readers, have access to their awesome content! You can find out more about their programs at https://dancesafe.org/ and the We Love Consent program at https://dancesafe.org/weloveconsent/ wlc_print_you-fucked-up_24x36_proof (1) (1)Download WLC_Print_Consent-Checklist_24x36_proofContinueContinue reading “We Love Consent at DanceSafe Offers Consent Resources”
How to Manage Sexual Regret? New Blog from Dr. Eli on Psychology Today
Dr. Eli’s newest blog on Psychology Today takes on the challenge of sexual regret when it was not a consent violation but you still feel weird about it.
Bonding Hour with Dr. Lisa Diamond March 27
Join the online interview with Dr. Lisa Diamond, expert in women’s sexual fluidity. Dr. Diamond joins the Bonding Hour on March 27 with co-hosts Dr. Eli Sheff and Carrie Jeroslow.
Distinguishing Between BDSM and Intimate Partner Violence Continiung Education Webinar March 20
Continuing Education Workshop for counselors, therapists, educators, nurses, and kinky folks who want to learn more about the differencdes between intimate partner violence/abuse and BDSM