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The Polyamorous Black American Anthology — Call for Submissions


Christopher Smith is collecting original stories written by African Americans who identify as polyamorous. If you are in that category, please consider submitting to his anthology!




While completing my academic article entitled Open to Love: Polyamory and the Black American (which will be published in The Journal of Black Sexuality and Relationships in the winter 2017 edition) I realized that theory, research and the few personal narratives I complied alone are not sufficient to display the eminence of the Black American polyamorous experience. The people themselves need to share their experiences, hearts, minds, and thoughts through essays, poetry, dance, monologues, narratives, biographical stories, text conversations, social media posts, and whatever other avenue comfortable for the individual and/or collective. The people themselves need to be heard…

The Black American Polyamorous Anthology Project is an avenue for self-identifying polyamorous Blacks/African Americans/Black Americans to express; through any form written, audio or video; their experiences. To be clear this project is meant to represent ALL self-identifying polyamorous Blacks/African Americans/Black Americans regardless of socio-economic class, age, sex, sexuality, gender, and polyamorous formation.

There is NO limit to what is expressed, this anthology seeks to show the totality of the Black American polyamorous experiences (the good, bad, happy, sad, celebratory, abusive, rehabilitory, cautionary, progressive, troublesome, sexual, nonsexual, affective, discriminatory, comfortable, uncomfortable, racial taboos etc…) and its intersections with our everyday lives (as pastors, clinicians, hostess, waste disposal professionals, CEO’s, accountants, artists, mothers, fathers, military members, it does not matter). The goal is to show a robust and true view of our lives.

The project has two elements:
1. Written anthology to be digitally released
2. Video/Audio anthology to be digitally released and presented at film festivals

The due date for submissions is July 16th, 2017

For more information about and the directions for participation in this project please email Christopher N Smith at expressing your interest.


About Christopher N Smith
Christopher N. Smith is researcher focused on consensual non-monogamous relationship trends in current and historical contexts. His prior education includes doctoral studies in Sociology; a Master of Arts in Religious Studies with a concentration in Religion and Society; and a Bachelor of Science in Psychology with a minor in Anthropology form Howard University. He is in pursuit of a Doctorate of Philosophy degree in Higher Education Leadership and Policy Studies with a concentration on Minority Serving Institutions. Mr. Smith has extensive experience publishing, working, teaching, presenting and conducting research studies within the education, sociology, human services and criminal justice sectors. Currently he is a Management Analyst for the District of Columbia & in the United States Air Force Reserves. He is an educator, community builder, father, relationship advocate and passionate about increasing awareness of and support for non-monogamous relationships structures in the United States.



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Press Releasefor Dr. Sheff’s Fall Speaking Tour





CONTACT: Dr. Elisabeth Sheff




Polyamory Expert, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, Touring Fall 2016

Dr. Sheff will be available this fall and is currently booking engagements


Dr. Elisabeth Sheff will be touring the both coasts this fall, promoting her new book,When Someone You Love is Polyamorous, and speaking to Colleges, Universities, organizations, and not-for-profits.


Dr. Sheff speaks about Sex and Gender Diversity to organizations around the country. Informative, entertaining, and accessible, Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamory in the US, and the worldwide expert on polyamorous families with children.


Dr. Sheff specializes in gender and sexual minority families, kink/BDSM, and issues facing trans* people. She is the CEO and Director of Legal Services at the Sheff Consulting Group, a think-tank of experts specializing in unconventional and underserved populations.


The tour takes place on the West Coast, October through November 2016. She will travel throughout Georgia, Virginia, Washington DC, Nevada, California, Oregon, and Washington.


Dr. Sheff is a smart, engaging, informative speaker. If you are interested in having Dr. Elisabeth Sheff speak to your organization, please contact her directly.






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Writing Tip: Self-Disclosure



Recently a reader who was enjoying the way I handled my own self-disclosure in The Polyamorists Next Door (where I talk about how my interactions with the polyamorous community affected my life and my research) contacted me to ask if I had an opinion about how zie might handle self-disclosure in zir own writing as both a member of and research investigating an altsex community.


Because it might be useful to other readers as well, I am including my response here:


The short answer is it depends a lot on what you are writing and for whom. In academic writing, if it is directly relevant to what you are writing then it is good to disclose up front (introduction &/or or methods section) what exactly is happening with you so as to give the reader context and a little bit of spice to keep them interested. Not in a salacious way and only when relevant, but a bit of self disclosure can make something that would be dry a little more engaging to read.
However, if it is not directly relevant then it can seem awkward and self-aggrandizing — look at how interesting I am! Me, me, me, and by the way, me.
Alternately, if you are writing for a more popular, non-academic audience, then I would definitely have a lot more of your own experience and identity as a way to structure the work, draw in readers, and establish yourself as a persona/brand across multiple writings. If you are thinking of a book, I would start with a chapter on who you are and why you are even studying this, plus your own experiences and identities (including both sexual and academic, to what ever degree you think appropriate in each circumstance).
If you are writing a research monograph then I would include a section of the methods section on your own relationship to the topic and the field, and how if at all it affected data collection, analysis, and findings. That sucks, because no one can claim objectivity in research with any legitimacy, but sex researchers who are part of altsex communities are expected to account for bias in a way that heterosexual researchers studying marriage and not called to account for their own involvement in heterosexuality. You have to give the context because it will appear sneaky if you don’t, and readers will wonder so you might as well tell them up front so they are not distracted by it for the whole book.
Do you want help with your writing? Dr. Sheff provides a wide range of writing services and academic coaching to help you ghost write your book, publish your thesis as a journal article, or turn your dissertation into journal articles and a book.


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