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Dr. Eli Sheff – Kinky Sex Makes the World Go Round – Pure Pleasure – Santa Cruz CA – 5/31/17

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If you missed me last time I was in Santa Cruz at Pure Pleasure, you have another chance this May 31 to hear my Unabashed Introduction to Kinky Sex, with a side of Facing Your Squick and Getting Over it.

 

5-31-17 Kinky Sex Makes the World Go Round: An Unabashed Introduction to BDSM

 

 

 

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Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit Still Accepting Proposals

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Do you have something to say about the intersection of sexual freedom and social justice? If so, then please consider submitting a proposal for a panel or workshop at the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit scheduled for Washington DC August 3 – 6, 2017. Proposals are due by Monday February 6. For more information click here

 

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Sexuality and Relationship Related Conventions in Atlanta

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As home of a thriving film industry, the Black Glitterati, and the largest gay population between Miami and Washington DC, Atlanta is a city of rich cultural diversity. One of the elements of that diversity shows up in the incredible range of relationship and sexuality related cons to which the lovely city of Atlanta plays host. Listed in chronological order below, these conventions add a smart and sexy strand to the vibrancy of Atlanta.

 

All of these cons have online registration, meet in large hotels, have social and learning components with panel presentations and gaming rooms, and include vendors rooms with merchants selling everything from jewelry, books, and crafts to corsets, kilts, and sex toys. While the cons usually have blocks of rooms reserved for reduced rates, it can be cheaper to stay in smaller or more modest hotels nearby.

 

InfinityCon – February

imgres.jpgFresh from its first excellent year, InfintyCon specializes in the kinky side of polyamory. Touting itself as an educational conference with flair, InfinityCon aims to deliver a wide variety of information on polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy. It is a sister con to Atlanta Poly Weekend with a more adult focus to contrast to APW’s family-friendly goals. In addition to their educational tracks, InfinityCon hosts a fun track designed to help folks connect with like-minded people with social time, dancing, and relaxation. InfinityCon is scheduled for February 9 – 12 in 2017.

 

Frolicon – April

imgres-1.jpgKnown among locals as DragonCon’s slutty little sister, Frolicon is a chance to “join all your favorite deviants for a fun filled weekend of debauchery and decadence.” A kink and think con for the “naughty side of paradise,” Frolicon features fun for thinkers, artists, and kinksters. Think tracks include those for writers, LGBT+, costuming, and polyamory, The kink track has classes on techniques, theories, and relationships, and the sync track helps frolickers make connections through meetups, speed dating, and mingles. For the kinksters, there is an incredibly well-equipped dungeon (configured by Sadistic Engineering) that fills the hotel’s largest ballroom and hosts open play as well as theme parties. Partiers will enjoy the Saturday night Party Battles in which groups of people try to outdo each other with making their party the most fun. Frolicon happens in the spring, when it is time to frolic, and is scheduled for April 13-16 in 2017.

 

Atlanta Poly Weekend – June

images-2.jpgHaving just completed its sixth year, Atlanta Poly Weekend is the only child-friendly con that features a kid track and pg-13 programming during the day, with the NC-17 programming scheduled after 9pm. Established by the Relationship Equality Foundation, APW offers polyamorous or poly curious folks the opportunity to meet and mingle, learn new skills, get advice, make family connections with other polys with kids (or without kids :), and learn about the wide world of communication, negotiation, and honesty among multiple partners. Atlanta Poly Weekend is scheduled for June 2 – 4 in 2017.

 

South East Leather Fest SELF – June

Iimgres-2.jpgn addition to lots of classes and opportunities to learn everything from An Introduction to Biting or Conflict Resolution Within a Master/slave Framework to Erotic Shaving or BDSM and the Law, SELF also hosts a range of competitions. Titles include Master/slave, Ms. SELF, SELF Boy/Boi, Mr. SELF, Southeast Bootblack and Southeast Person of Leather. SELF also hosts a huge dungeon with some very sophisticated scenes – dedicated to a much more serious version of kink than Frolicon, which also has a giant dungeon but is focused more on play and less on protocol. This next SELF is scheduled for June 22-25 2017.

 

DragonCon – September

images.jpgWhile not officially a sexualities-related convention, DragonCon is the kind of sci fi geek paradise that appeals to the kinksters, queers, polys, and cosplayers. Founded in 1987 and now in its 30th year, DragonCon touts itself as the largest muilti-media, popular culture convention focusing on science fiction & fantasy, gaming, comics, literature, art, music, and film in the universe. It hosts one of the most impressive parades I have ever seen and brings media figures from Sarah Gellar to William Shatner who speak to adoring throngs. The many fan tracks focus on everything from alternate history, animation, and armory to paranormal, puppetry, and robotics or urban fantasy, video gaming, and young adult literature. My personal favorites are the science and skeptic tracks. The mingling of thousands of imaginative people in sexy cosplay (with a decent dose of alcohol) leads to sexual exploration and fantasy play. DragonCon is a great place to get your geek on, and your freak on. It is scheduled for September 1-4 in 2017.

 

Sex Down South – October

images.jpgOrganized by a cadre of smart young queers, Sex Down South focuses on the intersections of sexuality, race, class, gender, ability, religion, social justice, and pleasure. In 2015, the first year of this excellent con dedicated to diversity and sexual liberation for everyone, speakers included psychologist Dr. Rachel Kieran, writer Fiona Zedde, sexy disability activist Robin Wilson Beattie, Velvet Lips founder and sex educator extraordinaire Marla Stewart, performance artist Ignacio Rivera (aka Papi Coxxx), minister Aldalphie Johnson, and author, podcaster, and cliterati Tristian Taormino. Sex Down South is scheduled for October 13 – 15 in 2016 and includes an impressive line-up including Tyomi Morgan, Sinclair Sexsmith, Orpheus Black, Ken Melvoin-Berg, Sunny Megatron, and yours truly (Elisabeth Sheff). SDS is coming right up — October 13-15 2016 at the Hilton in downtown Atlanta.

 

Do you know of any relationship or sexuality cons in Atlanta that did not make the list? Let me know by emailing me at drelisheff@gmail.com and I will be sure to add them.

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AREWE on March 12 More than Half Sold Out

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The Alternative Relationship Education Workshop Event is less than two weeks away, and seats are going fast.

I will be joining a team of local mental health professionals to present a special CEU workshop for Counselors, Psychologists, and Social Workers interested in learning how to better support clients in alternative relationship styles.

Despite efforts to maintain non-judgmental attitudes, most mental health professionals know so little about this area that their responses to clients who “come out” to them can range from off-putting surprise to a disapproval that has anecdotally even done damage to clients, and created barriers to future treatment.  We hope to prevent these experiences by educating mental health professionals in the areas of sexual, gender and relational diversity – specifically alternative relationship structures, considerations of relational attraction, sexual identity, and gender expression.  Presenters have been selected from local professionals with experience in treating these populations, many with involvement and national exposure in the development of mental health standards in this area.

This workshop will have six classes and provide six CEUs to those who attend both the morning and the afternoon sessions. The morning session focuses on information, and will provide 3 CEUs. The afternoon session will cover the practical application of ethical practice with clients in alternative relationships and provides two Ethics CEUs and one general CEU. There will be a lunch break in the middle of the day with a catered lunch for all registered FULL DAY participants.

Please join us March 12th and share with any friends or colleagues who may be interested! For more information and to register, please visit  https://relationshipequalityfoundation.org/workshop-registration/

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Alternative Relationship Education Workshop Event

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The Alternative Relationship Education Workshop Event — AREWE — is scheduled for March 12, 2016 at the Philip Rush Center in Atlanta. I will be teaming with other local professionals to provide an CEU Workshop on sexual, gender and relational diversity – Alternative Relationships! If you’ve ever had to refer a client away because you weren’t familiar or were uncomfortable with their relationship style, join us March 12th. 6 CEUs available for counselors, psychologists, and social workers.  https://relationshipequalityfoundation.org/workshop-registration/

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The Center for Alternative Lifestyles Hosts Dr. Eli Jan. 30 & 31

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If you are going to be in the Denver area January 30 and 31, consider joining me with the Center for Alternative Lifestyles for a weekend of talks on consensual non-monogamies and their related social and legal issues.

Schedule

Saturday January 30, 2016

10 – 11:30: Types of Consensual Non-Monogamy and When they Work

12:30 – 2pm: Polyamorous Families with Children

2:30 – 4pm: The Importance of Polyaffectivity to Resilient CNM Families

Sunday January 31, 2016

10 – 11:30: Legal Issues Facing Sexual Minority Families and How to Handle Them

12:30 – 2pm: Sexual Variation vs. Paraphilia and Pathology: Changes in the DSM5

2:30 – 4pm: The Pleasures and Dangers of Unicorn Hunting

Location

Venue:   Denver’s Dangerous Theatre

Venue Phone: 303-922-0068

Address:

2620 West 2nd Avenue, #1, Denver, Colorado, 80219, United States
For more information see http://coloradocal.com/events/sheff2016/
I hope to see you there!

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InfinityCon Presentations February 6 and 7

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With fabulous altsex folks like Cunning Minx, Franklin Veaux, Eve Rickert, and Marla Stewart,  InfinityCon is coming to the Crowne Plaza Hotel near the Atlanta airport. I am thrilled to be presenting the keynote address Alternative Families, Cultural Influences, and Chosen Kinship at 5pm on Saturday, February 6. My other presentations are on Friday February 5, with Polyamorous Families with Children from 1 t0 1:50pm, and Boundaries for Leadership in Altsex Communities with Eve Rickert from 3 to 3:50. Also, I present Correcting Assumptions: Differentiating between BDSM and Intimate Partner Violence with Rachel Kieran on Saturday from 2 to 2:50.

Registration is open, so please join us for great conversations, the opportunity to learn new skills, and the chance to attend fun con events like the Black Tie Poly Prom, a pajama party movie night, and  an evening with Taloolah Love and the Atlanta Speakeasy Electroswing.

 

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