The shortened blog that meets the Psychology Today editors’ requirements is up now — check it out to see if you can spot the differences! This post offers tips for folks who want to become better lovers using post-sex communication.
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Mastering Aftercare: Tips for Lasting Sexual Satisfaction
I blog for the Psychology Today website, and occasionally their editors ask me to edit what I have written to make it fit better with their site. The blog below is an example of that. The editors asked me to make the language less explicit and to focus on the psycholiogical aspects of post-sex communication,ContinueContinue reading “Mastering Aftercare: Tips for Lasting Sexual Satisfaction”
Join Our Monthly Support Group for Mixed Relationships September 10
Are you struggling with a mixed dynamic relationship? Join Dr. Eli Sheff and the Pincus Center for our monthly drop-in support group online for relationships where one partner wants exclusivity and another wants an open relationship. We meet online the second Wednesday of every month at 5 pm Pacific/8 pm Eastern time to share information,ContinueContinue reading “Join Our Monthly Support Group for Mixed Relationships September 10”
Breaking Free: Rejecting Purity Culture’s Impact
My newest blog on Psychology Today explores some of the reasons people leave purity culture behind, and some of the outcomes they experience when they reject Evangelical expectations. Shout out to Mx. Tessi Muskrat for their awesome research on this topic! https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/202507/rejecting-sexual-shame-from-purity-culture #Shame #gender #relationship #Religions #purityculture #personalgrowth #NewBeginnings #healing
Safe Practices in Rough Sex and BDSM Explained
In my newest blog on Psychology Today I explore the differences between rough sex and BDSM, and offer some tips about how to do both safely. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/202506/what-is-the-difference-between-rough-sex-and-bdsm
Understanding Consensual Non-Consent in BDSM
My most recent blog on Psychology Today explores the #bdsm practice of #ConsensualNonConsent. Should out to Debby Herbenick and their awesome research on #CNC, as well as the fantastic information on #consent from the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) who advocate for #ExplicitandPriorPermission. Image: Two people who appear to be women in lingere facingContinueContinue reading “Understanding Consensual Non-Consent in BDSM”
We Love Consent at DanceSafe Offers Consent Resources
The wonderful folks with the We Love Consent team at Dancesafe gave me permission to post their excellent consent resources on this site. Now you, lucky readers, have access to their awesome content! You can find out more about their programs at https://dancesafe.org/ and the We Love Consent program at https://dancesafe.org/weloveconsent/ wlc_print_you-fucked-up_24x36_proof (1) (1)Download WLC_Print_Consent-Checklist_24x36_proofContinueContinue reading “We Love Consent at DanceSafe Offers Consent Resources”
How to Manage Sexual Regret? New Blog from Dr. Eli on Psychology Today
Dr. Eli’s newest blog on Psychology Today takes on the challenge of sexual regret when it was not a consent violation but you still feel weird about it.
Distinguishing Between BDSM and Intimate Partner Violence Continiung Education Webinar March 20
Continuing Education Workshop for counselors, therapists, educators, nurses, and kinky folks who want to learn more about the differencdes between intimate partner violence/abuse and BDSM
The Skimm Interviews Dr. Eli About Spicing Up Your Sex Life
the Skimm interviewed Dr. Eli about how to spice up a sex life