New Interview with Elisabeth Sheff on MultiAmory



The wonderful hosts of MultiAmory interviewed me a few weeks ago on their podcast, you can check it out here or on You Tube  here

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Client Testimonial for Relationship Consultation


I recently received this testimonial from some clients who had booked a relationship consultation, and was thrilled to hear what they said. It is posted here with their permission.


We were in various forms of a polyamorous relationship for over a decade before we decided to formally divorce.  “Divorce” felt like a misnomer for our intentions and experience, so we searched for different models and found Eli’s research.  It helped us greatly to think through our experience!  We called her up for a consultation and had a great talk that has laid the groundwork for a productive process of dividing up our assets while still maintaining our sense of intimacy and closeness.  We highly recommend talking with her if you find yourself in a similar space!
– P & G
If you would like to book a relationship consultation in person or via Skype, email me at

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Book Talk in Austin, Texas at BookWoman Nov. 23

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If you are going to be in the Austin, Texas area, please consider joining me for a book talk. I will be reading from my new book, Stories from the Polycule, at BookWoman, Austin’s premier feminist bookstore, at 7pm on Monday November 23. I hope to see you there!



5501 North Lamar #A-105, Austin, TX 78751

7pm, Monday November 23, 2015


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New Psychology Today Blog on Polyamorous Family Resilience

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My newest blog on Psychology Today looks at resilience among poly family members and explains how polyaffectivity helps poly families stay in contact over long periods of time. You can find it at

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Elisabeth Sheff to Speak at Bookwoman in Austin, Texas on November 23

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If you will be in Austin, Texas, on Monday November 23, please join me at 7pm at BookWoman, Austin’s premier feminist book store. I will talk a bit about how my most recent book, Stories from the Polycule, came together and read a few selections. Audience members will be able to ask questions, and I might read a selection from The Polyamorists Next Door (my first book) if there is time.  I hope to see you at BookWoman at 7pm on November 23, at 5501 North Lamar #A-105, Austin, TX 78751

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Polyamory and Death


Simon Davis wrote a very interesting piece on polyamory and death for Vice. You can check it out at


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Review of Polyqueer: Gender, Race, and Polyamory

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In Polyqueer: Gender, Race, and Polyamory, Dr. Mimi Schippers examines the racialized and gendered backdrop against which heterosexuality and monogamy play out in contemporary US culture. Focusing on multiplistic configurations of one woman with two men, Schippers provides a polyqueer reading of E.Lynn Harris’s Invisible Life and the film The Other Man. Going beyond the individual focus common in much discussion of polyamory, Polyqueer examines the potential collective impacts of non-monogamies. Schippers asks how hetero-masculinity – embodied in The Monogamous Couple – shapes institutional relationships. By exposing them as socially constructed, Polyqueer demonstrates that these hegemonic relationships are far from inevitable. Best of all, Schippers explores counter-narratives that cross racial and gendered boundaries, disturbing mononormativity and offering the potential for a reorientation of hierarchical institutions.


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