Range of Non-Monogamies blogpost on Psychology Today

Check out my newest blogpost on Psychology Today, Seven Forms of Non-Monogamy, at http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201407/seven-forms-non-monogamy

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See Elisabeth Sheff on HuffPost Live chat with Robyn Trask and Leon Feingold

See Elisabeth Sheff on HuffPost Live chat with Robyn Trask and Leon Feingold.

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See Elisabeth Sheff on HuffPost Live chat with Robyn Trask and Leon Feingold

In this segment Elisabeth, Robyn, and Leon chat with Josh Zepps at HuffPost Live


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See Elisabeth Sheff at the Decatur Book Festival

If you live in the Atlanta area and read books, you have no doubt heard of the Decatur Book Festival, the largest independent book festival in the United States. This year you can see me, Elisabeth Sheff, at the book festival on Saturday August 30 at 10am at the Marriott Conference Center Auditorium. For more information please see the Decatur Book Festival website at https://www.decaturbookfestival.com/2014/authors/detail.php?id=1021

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Two New Reviews of The Polyamorists Next Door


Ken Haslam reviewed The Polyamorists Next Door for the journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy at http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/14681994.2014.929648

Haslam says of the book:

“I come away from this book with the impression that the polyamory community is on the cutting edge of social research and by trial and error they are learning those sexual, communication, and relationship skills necessary to establish the non-traditional, multi- partnered family of the twenty-first and twenty-second centuries. This book will be most useful to the non-judgmental and well-informed therapist who can play a major role in guiding those with problems as well as newcomers into the polyamorous community.”


Jessica Burde at Polyamory on Purpose reviewed the book, which you can read here http://polyamoryonpurpose.com/2014/07/13/the-polyamorists-next-door/

In her review Burde says:

“There is a lot of fascinating information in The Polyamorists Next Door, and many polyamorists will enjoy reading it to see the results of Dr. Sheff’s studies of polyamory. Poly parents will find interesting (and useful!) information in the sections on children raised in poly families.

However at the end of the day, this book isn’t written for us. Instead, it is the book polyamory has needed for decades. A book written not for people who want to be polyamorous, but for monogamists who want to understand polyamory. You know the question that pops up in every poly forum eventually “What book can I get for my (parents/friends/siblings/friends) to help them understand polyamory?”

You can read the review and lots of other interesting things at Polyamory on Purpose. While you are there, check out Burde’s book on pregnancy and polyamory for quite an interesting read.

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Deadline for Submissions Extended: Stories from the Polycule

Stories from the Polycule: Real Life in Polyamorous Families
Edited by Elisabeth Sheff

Are you a member of a poly family and willing to share your story (anonymously) with the world? Consider writing a brief entry for the upcoming book Stories from the Polycule: Real Life in Polyamorous Families. Submissions can:

• Range in length from a few sentences to 10 pages long, depending on the age of the submitters, the format they select, and how much they have to say.
• Take the form of essays, short stories, poetry, drawings, and photographs, or whatever else you create that can be depicted in a two dimensional format.
• Use pseudonyms or real names, be as anonymous or out as you wish.
• Come from anyone who identifies as a member of a polyamorous family composed of all adults, adults and kids, or some other mix of folks who identify as family.

To submit a contribution to Stories from the Polycule, please email them to drelisheff@gmail.com by October 15, 2014.

Topics you might consider include (but are not limited to):

Small Children
• Draw a picture of your family
• What is the best thing about being in your family?
• What is the worst thing about being in your family?
• What do you think about your family? The adults in your life/your parents’ partners?
• Any cute stories or quotes the adults in your life remember you saying about your family?

Older Kids and Teenagers (all of the above, plus:)
• Do you tell your friends, kids at school, teachers, or other adults about being in a poly family? Why or why not?
• What do you think about your parents’ partners?
• Can you talk to your extended family members (like grandparents and aunts or uncles) about being in a poly family? If yes, how does it go? If no, why not?
• Do you think you will have polyamorous relationships when you grow up? Why or why not?
• If you have tried dating at this point, how did it go? Was it monogamous, poly, or something else?
• Are you happy your family is poly, or do you wish they were monogamous (or something else)?
• Some people think polyamory is bad for kids. Do you agree or disagree, and why?
• How did you find out that you lived in a poly family, and how did you feel when you first found out? How do you feel now? Why?

• What relationship do you have with the children in your life?
• How do you think polyamory has affected your family?
• How did your family get together (ie. How did you get started in polyamory, what is your family like now, and how did it get that way)?
• What are the best things about your poly family? The worst?
• What is one of the best things that have happened to your family? The worst?
• Some people think polyamory is bad for kids. Do you agree or disagree, and why?
• Have you experienced any discrimination because of your status as a member of a polyamorous family? What happened, and how did you deal with it?
• Why have you split up with partners in the past, and how did it go? Why do you have the partners you do now?
• Do you have any advice on how to do polyamory “right” or pitfalls to avoid? Ways to do poly “wrong?”
• Did you come out as poly to your kids? Family of origin? Friends? At work? Why or why not?
• If you are not the biological parent of a child (something Sociologists call a social parent) in a poly family, but have a close relationship with that child – how does it go? What does the child call you? What do you do together? How are you treated in public? By other family members?

Elders (all of the questions above plus:)
• Do your adult children know you are poly? If yes, how do they react? If no, why not? How do you keep it hidden?
• Please describe your poly family and how it came to be.
• What are the benefits of being poly now? When you were younger?
• What are the disadvantages of being poly now? When you were younger?
• Looking back, what do know now about polyamorous family life that you wish you had known when you were younger?


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Final installment of “Why I am not Polyamorous but you might want to be” blog

Part three of a series of blogs on the Psychology Today website


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